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on the topic of marriage and religion

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I can’t believe it’s been 8 hours already! Or is it less? Perhaps more? I don’t know, I was never good at maths. Anyway, I am having a blast as you can probably see on the cam. However it is time for a post that is out of the normal themes tonight.

I have reached that age when more and more of my friends or acquaintances are taking big steps and for some reason lately I’ve been hearing about people getting married and having discussions on the subject of marriage. Is it really wrong that I still freak out with the idea of friends getting married? Isn’t getting married supposed to be for old people? In other words, what I’m trying to say is this whole thing makes me feel old. When did I grow up, when did THEY grow up?

Back to the topic of marriage. Last weekend I had a long discussion with my friend Lee on it. Are you for or against marriage? It seems to be really popular for people to not want to get married any more. I am one of these people but let me clarify before you start asking me questions.

I don’t like the word marriage. It represents something religious to me and being a non religious person I don’t like that so many things are linked and guided by religion. I am not trying to offend anyone when I say this as I am very open minded and can accept people making their own choices and believing whatever they want to believe. However, other than the legal implications behind a marriage I don’t see the point.

Now comes another point though: Getting married and declaring in front of all of your friends and family that you love your partner and want to spend the rest of your life with them is something truly poetic, deep and more meaningful than any contract.

Would you get married? Would you want to get married at a church in front of whichever god you may believe in or at the city hall? What does marriage mean to you?

Written by Colin Brooks on 28.07.07 at 10:01 pm.

6 Responses to “on the topic of marriage and religion”

Andrew Odlum said:

I am personally in favor of marriage. I think every marriage ceremony should be unique. My fiance and I plan to get married outside with a custom ceremony. Neither or us are religious, but both of us want to get married. To us, it is simply another expression of love. Plus, the tax benefits are going to be nice.
Commented on July 28th, 2007 at 10:21 pm
Hugh said:

oh i shall have to sleep on this question

i’m not really for marriage, though am also not against it - though i do find it hypocritical to get married in a church and have a religious service, only because it fits “your” idea if a fairytale wedding, but having never set foot in a church or followed any religion in their lives.
I think my brother had the right idea, when he got married in a registry office, with only people who he and his now wife, held as really close - then held a family/friends do later on - they also didn’t waste any money

i do like the idea of publically saying your want to spend the rest of your life with your partner.

i wish this bloody rain would stop.

well i’m knackered so i’m off to bed, if i wake up in the night i shall pop along to this website - the wonders of a laptop and wi-fi

keep up the good work Mr C

H
Commented on July 28th, 2007 at 11:03 pm
Colin Brooks said:

Okay mr H. Havr a good night and thanks for sponsoring and keeping me company! I will be here until 2pm tomorrow so maybe speak to you tomorrow!

Commented on July 28th, 2007 at 11:08 pm
Hugh said:

ok night night - i shall try to pop by during the night
i always found 3- 6 the worst time on nights, but by 8 i was wide awake ready for another day, only to collapse in a heap around 10

i have to admit to not realising you were up for 24 hours, so i shall increase my donation by half - i shall have to figure out how i do this now
Commented on July 28th, 2007 at 11:13 pm
Colin Brooks said:

if you log in to you account over at http://www.blogathon.org you will be able to change you pledge or add another one. Thank you so much!

Commented on July 28th, 2007 at 11:15 pm
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